I read something very interesting yesterday. If you are currently a father who has issues with their visitation of there kids then this is a must read. Not every situation is the same so take what you can from the information.
Edin’s subsequent research analyzes data from the large-scale Fragile Families & Child Wellbeing study and reaches similar conclusions. For example, she found that when a mother moves on to have new partners, her actions are “strongly associated with increases in the probability that the biological father will have no contact with his child.” Contrary to anti-father stereotypes, when fathers move on to have subsequent romantic partners and children, they largely retain their desire to be in their original children’s lives. According to Edin:
“[T]he evidence points more strongly to the role of mothers ‘swapping daddies’ than it does to the role of fathers ‘swapping kids.'”
Edin also found that mothers’ and fathers’ subsequent partners often interfere with father involvement. Dad may be kept away because his presence makes mom’s current partner jealous. Similarly, dad’s new partner may pressure him to spend his time and resources on her and the child they have together, as opposed to his child with his former partner.
Moreover, according to Edin, a mother’s new partnership “may provide strong motivation [for her] to put the new partner in the ‘daddy’ role.” The biological father is then less likely to be involved because the mother is more likely to exclude him and/or because he may feel he’s now redundant.
In broken families, when a mother does not want her children’s father around anymore, she can usually push him out. Family courts tilt heavily towards mothers in awarding custody, and often fail to enforce fathers’ visitation rights. In most states, mothers are able to move their children hundreds or thousands of miles away from their fathers, often permanently destroying the fathers’ bonds with their children.
Moreover, women are increasingly having children with no intention of ever having a father in their kids’ lives. Newly-released data from the National Center for Health Statistics show that 40% of children born in the United States are born out of wedlock, a 26% increase from just five years ago. Even if a couple is cohabiting at the time of the child’s birth, three in 10 will split up within only two years.
The child welfare system also pushes fathers away from their children. When a child welfare agency removes children from a single mother’s home for abuse or neglect, an offer of placement to the father, barring unfitness, should be automatic. Yet the Urban Institute report What About the Dads? contains a shocking finding: even when fathers inform child welfare officials that they would like their children to live with them, the agencies seek to place the children with their fathers in only a small percentage of cases. The children are instead pushed into the foster care system.
The explosion of divorce, out of wedlock births, and post-break-up father absence has greatly harmed our children. This tragedy has largely been blamed on fathers. While fathers do deserve some blame, mothers and the family law and child welfare systems have also done much to separate children from the fathers they love and need.
Glenn Sacks is the Executive Director of Fathers & Families. His columns have appeared in dozens of the largest newspapers in the United States. Robert Franklin, Esq. serves on the organization’s Board. Their website is www.FathersandFamiles.org
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